I can’t tell you how many times I hear this phrase!
“We’re spending 4 hours a night in tears over homework. I’m at my wit’s end!”
“I see how hard she tries, but no matter how much we study, she still fails her tests. I’m at my wit’s end.”
“My son hates to read and gets stomachaches before school everyday. I don’t know what to do. I’m at my wit’s end.”
Parents at their wit’s end over their child’s struggles in school feel alone. They feel like the only one. Relatives and friends often simply don’t understand.
“He’ll grow out of it,” they say.
Or, “She just needs to try harder.”
“You need to quit babying him. He needs to be more independent.”
“Maybe she’s not that smart. Maybe school is just not her thing.”
“He’s just not motivated. He doesn’t really care.”
Hmmmm. Here’s what I know from working with thousands of children and adults with diagnosed and undiagnosed learning disabilities and dyslexia:
- By definition, a person with a learning disability has at least average intelligence. Often they are much brighter than average or even gifted.
- Students with learning challenges often try 10 times as hard as their peers. Poor results do not necessarily correlate with effort.
- I’ve never met someone who really wanted to fail. Lack of motivation may be a symptom, but it’s certainly not the reason why smart kids struggle in school. Do you feel motivated to continue doing something experience tells you you can’t be successful at?
Parents are at their wit’s end because they know their child is smart. They see talents and abilities that don’t match their child’s performance in reading or at school. They know it shouldn’t be this way but they don’t know what to do. And they feel alone.
Parent’s, here’s some hope.
- You are not alone. Based on research statistics, there are about 14.9 million students in school today who are struggling more than they should. Many of their parents are tearing their hair out, too.
- And here’s the really important thing: Most of the time, the cause of the learning challenges is weak underlying learning or processing skills. These skills can be developed!
The brain can be retrained to process information more efficiently so that reading, writing, spelling, and math can be remediated and retained.
Most learning challenges including learning disabilities and dyslexia can be corrected.
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We serve children and adults with diagnosed or undiagnosed learning and attention challenges including learning disabilities, dyslexia, ADHD, auditory processing disorders, and autism spectrum disorders.
Jill Stowell, M.S.
Author: At Wit’s End A Parent’s Guide to Ending the Struggle Tears, and Turmoil of Learning Disabilities
Founder and Executive Director – Stowell Learning Centers
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